Elimination Communication | Early Potty Training *4 Easy Steps!

hey guys I'm Monica and today I'm going

to be talking to you about how I was

able to successfully get both my kids

out of diapers by the time they were 15

month old I post videos twice a week so

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my foot's little one the first thing I'm

going to talk to you guys about is how

this method was like nothing that I've

ever heard of I wanted to have kind of

the most eco-friendly like sustainable

method of ice cream so it's kind of

googling and researching eco-friendly

diapering solutions as I was doing this

like well you don't you try this

business and then it was like well it's

really want to be friendly why don't you

try easy and then it kind of leads to an

article about beauty and I was like you

see what's that and it's elimination

communication this method where you put

babies on the potty basically from the

time they're born and I was like that

sounds a little crazy what is this but

it was like that else wasn't cool and so

I just kind of dove in like read as much

as I could about it I'm so pregnant at

this point I'm like it's going to be a

new parent and I was like so excited to

start probably changing my paevey after

researching with clinics so it just

clicks with me and just like made all

the sense in the world when you think

about potty training animals and humans

are not kind of designed to soil

themselves this is something that we

have to learn and animals just in

general let's go away from themselves

the way the we do with Hyper's is they

unlearn that instinct and then they've

learned to go on themselves when they

first use a diaper and they poop on

themselves and our new particularly

super mats are like fussing they're

prone I like it this thing off me they

don't like it at all and then we kind of

start to get used to it and then by the

temperature or three they like start to

like it and I mean they really like and

if they don't have their diaper on don't

have fur a diaper actually when they

need to go and they like have a special

sauce that they want to go behind the

couch or whatever it is and they've at

this point they've learned okay this is

I'm comfortable doing it and then they

have to unlearn that but this method

they don't ever get set to that comfort

level going into the diaper and they

keep that natural and seem to go away

from themselves when you look at


high training methods you know it says

you have to wait until early use

eighteen months old even think about

hobby training issues wait later and

Sydney says that the methods being used

if you're talking about using rewards

and punishments like sticker cards for

every time you go or like they're

getting in trouble or together and

reprimanded for having accidents or

whatever that's not what that's not what

this method is about being is actually

from births can release obviously they

can read otherwise you want to preserve

about this but they actually can control

that release they can relax the muscle

what they can't do is close the muscle

off because their little system is just

too immature and they're not able to

close off so they can't stop themselves

from going on themself but you know if

they've not gotten to that tipping point

and you offer them the potties they can

actually release and they actually can

do this consciously from books the first

time you Tory think oh my god this is

like how did I not know this

but it's really cool too and so they're

actually able to do this and if you

start from the time they're born they're

never going to lose that and it's going

to be so much easier for them to finally

eventually get potty independence

they're learning how to go potty just

like they learn how to talk like you

don't expect them to beisbol to complete

sentences back to you from Dateline you

just speak to them and then over time

they learn the language and that's the

thing with Cuddy training you just you

show them what to do and you show them

where the potty goes and then eventually

over time you learn so a way that I kind

of think of it is whenever you first

have a baby you know when that baby is

hungry and you might not know what day

one but you know after a few weeks you

learn your baby you know when your baby

is hungry you look for signs you look

for like the routing or either sucking

on their fingers and you know and so

it's kind of the same thing like you

know that they have to eat you see them

when you know they have to go to the

potty you offer them the potty this

isn't a message that you know I made up

or that's like a new thing that and like

a lot of times in our culture it's like

oh this is it's like this New Age weird

you know like potty training or like

whatever like that it's like this weird

thing but really it's sex inspection is

how everything was done before we had

neighbors we haven't had diapers forever

and there's a lot of babies in the world

right now that still don't use diapers

and so how are those bees what was

happening with them or they just like

pooping all over the floor and seeing

all over the place you know they were

and so and apologist kind of serves

these cultures and found that some

mothers you know they would wear the

babies and they're not pooping and

peeing on them they would just they

would know somehow it was easier to go

and then I would just like take them to

this there's a gated place for them to

go and they would go put it back on and

get back to work and I was like well how

how are they doing this

well basically some people wrote some

books about it and they kind of broke it

down into the four main principles or

four main tools that you can use and so

those tools are what I'm going to share

with you so our first tool that we're

going to be talking about is signals so

what this is is basically watching your

baby for signs that they need to go and

for little ones this could be anything

from like getting really quickly and

firming around or sometimes you don't go

kick their feet or still look to the

left or they'll kind of stare off into

space or whatever it is or poop it's a

little bit more obvious you know they

make the poop face you all know the poop

face if you do have kids you all know

the poop face if you don't have kids

you've seen it on other kids if you know

the poop face and that's basically the

signal that you watch for and when you

see the signal you basically just offer

the potty you get them potty - yeah and

so it's kind of a silly little word but

basically you're a potty opportunity and

that's basically like the thing that

you're going to be doing with easy is

just offering them the chance to use the

restroom there's no like oh you did it

here's the sticker or oh you're so you

miss it's not like that it's like you

think they need to go you offer them the

potty like if you think they need to eat

you offer them some oh that's tool if

one tool number two kind of goes in

conjunction with tool number one and

that is Hughes for the first kind of

couple weeks or a week or so you just

want to get like a blanket and you put

the baby on a blanket we don't get a

flake you want to get like a pee pad or

a towel and you just observe them and

you watch for what they do so you try to

find those signals they see what they do

when they go and when you see them going

you use the second tool which is Q and

so CCMP you're going to use it a

specific Q and then if you didn't poop

you're going to use another Q now the

cues to be whatever you want but

obviously you the ones that I learn and

that for P is just

and just do this whenever you see them

go or you are giving them out the

opportunity to clean and then for poop

it's going to be 2 spoon or whatever

variations of that you want to do this

kind of a different sound so that when

they're pooping or when you know they

need to poop

it kind of gives them that signal to the

brain to get them to release so that

they can go now

I guess then you can do help whatever

method you want to use or whatever

signals you want to use so that's number

two so you observe you wash or their

signs or their signals and then you cue

when you see them doing it and you cue

when you're giving them that opportunity

to go when they're over the potty and

then the third thing you're going to use

which I use the time is timing and this

really for me it would just be the

easiest one for me to kind of implement

as far as like knowing when they needed

to go and timing is going to be

different for every kid because the kids

they don't you know they don't read the

book they're not watching this video

babies they just kind of go 180 to go

but timing wise in general when they

first wake up that's when I was always

able to catch a pee or poop or pee and

poop and with the newborns they're

pooping you know five times a day so

when they wake up you're catching a

piano poop and typically around feeding

time somebody's it's like in the middle

of a nursing session for like for my

kids it was like you know 10 to 15

minutes after feeding that they would

need to go and then it will just kind of

like kind of space out after that and so

like in the morning for my kids it was

like more frequently like every 30

minutes and then you know and the

evening it'd be closer to like every 45

minutes to an hour and then as they get

older times kind of spaced out and then

by the time they're like a year old it's

close to to an hour and then you know 18

months you know it can be like 2 or 3

hours you don't like follow a schedule

per se but you just observe them and you

kind of know kind of learn their rhythms

and then you're able to offer the potty

as you see fit and it's not it's not

that complicated it becomes like a

really natural process and you just kind

of start to know which brings me to the

fourth tool which is intuition and this

is just kind of that knowing feeling

like when you kind of know that they

might need something it's just this kind

of instinct that you get that you're

like oh I think they might need to go

and then you offer them and a lot

you're right they needed to go and so

using these four tools together it makes

it really simple to kind of apply this

natural process and get your babies to

continue doing what they already know

how to do and not forget that process

there's also a specific position that

you can hold the baby end and basically

you're whenever they have their kind of

needs up to their chest like that it

kind of gives it enough not a lot of

pressure but just like enough pressure

and then they hear the signal they have

to go it kind of helps them to be able

to release and go in that moment you can

hold them over the potty like this

sometimes I would sit backwards on the

potty and do this and then sometimes I

would just have a little top hat potty

is that I was sat in my lap and then

just hold the babies over like that and

that was like something that I when

they're newborns you can just kind of

give them up against your stomach and

you can even like when you're pushing

kind of do an exorcism they can kind of

feel that and that can help them to

release as well another thing that I

think is important to remember is that

this is not something that has to be

like an all-or-nothing thing you don't

have to do this all day every day never

buy a diaper or anything like that I use

diapers with my daughter you know there

was so many times where she was in a

diaper like throughout the day I never

used cloth diapers issue but he'll and I

would change her as quickly as I could

but I couldn't like to see on all day

and that was fine it was like when I

have a chance when I have energy when I

had the wherewithal then I would give

her diaper free time and I would also

have a potty and you know we do the

whole thing that wasn't like all day

every day so like if you're working or

if you only have time in the morning or

you only have time in the evening that's

okay you can do this part-time and as

long as they're still going to the potty

going away from themselves and they

learn to make that connection in their

brain and it's going to be a lot easier

for them to reach that potty

independence as long as you're

consistent and you stick with it

I think you'll find that you absolutely

won't regret this I don't know everybody

who's done it you see but the people

that I know you know by the time there

were two it was kind of not a thing

anymore there's their kids just new

cutting of the potty

it's really not like a hard thing or a

crazy thing it sounds crazy absolutely I

thought it sounded crazy it kind of like

crazy into that way and that crazy I

like things that are different and this

just made sense to me and so that's why

I went ahead and did it some different

resources that you can use if you decide

that this is what you want to do there's

a lot of support out there there's

Facebook groups that you can join

talk about easy or you can ask and

answer questions there's books that you

can read which and I'll link up all the

stuff in the description so be sure to

check that out also if you're doing easy

and you have some tips and tricks that I

haven't hit on or that you wanted to

talk about leave it in the comments

below if you have any questions also

leave that below make sure to stay tuned

for part two of this video where I'll go

over commas or hurdles that you can run

into and some tips and tricks that I use

to navigate through those as well as the

gear that I use and to kind of get you

ready and get you confident so that you

too can use this method