Sex Tips for Long Distance Relationships

all right this is one of those you asked

and here's an answer because one of the

most common questions i have been

getting during these times and actually

before this too

is tips for keeping a long-distance


super alive and passionate uh when you

can't see each other physically that


or at all so there's actually a lot of


that can come from a long distance

relationship so you get to

form a deeper emotional connection

and bond that doesn't get disrupted by

some of the crazy that we

all know happens when you go in body to

body right when you're having sex

you can go like you basically get high

on your own chemicals and it can delude


about the nature of a relationship about

the nature of a person

so when i was dating i actually had a

three week rule for a long period of

time where i wouldn't sleep with anyone

for three weeks because people always

tend to show who they are during that


so a long distance relationship is

actually a beautiful

opportunity to really get to know

someone without getting like

all kinds of clouded on the sexual

chemistry front

it's also a tremendous opportunity to


uh rituals of connection and sharing and

intimacy into your relating because when

you live together the days can kind of

blend and you have busy schedules and

all of that

it's much easier because you're going to

set up times to talk to each other

anyways in long distance to say

okay on wednesday nights at 5 pm we do

our fears desires and love sharing right

or on

sundays at 10 a.m we actually do eye

gazing and heart breath

and sharing afterwards so it's much

easier i

find during a long distance period to

really create that structure that's

going to support you when you're back


as well as right now we have so many

amazing technologies

that make intergalactic technological


possible and maybe mark zuckerberg is

watching you maybe not nobody knows

but the point is you gotta be free you

gotta live so i'll be

talking to you about some of those ways

that you can still keep your sex life

super alive and super passionate and

super active one cool thing about a long

distance relationship is you can

actually extend

the honeymoon period because that

longing that

mystery that sense of not being able to

just have someone right when you want


is heightened when you're in long

distance you can also really develop

other skills so something that i

recommend is starting

to really get good at sexting which

means telling someone exactly

what you would do to them if they were

there in person really finding out what

turns on your

partner is it the way that you talk is

it energy flirtation

is it gifts it's a real time to study

their love language

and also learn how to be super explicit

so this is a thing that when couples

actually are together all the time they

can get a bit

lazy about being explicit with each

other about turning each other on

about flirting with each other via text

or video and so if you develop this

skill now it will serve you in

your full relationship experience so

some really great ideas to try are to

share from your point of view

memories of your hottest sexual

experiences together

things that you miss about your partner

things that you're craving from them

this is also a great time to figure out

how to take super

sexy photos of yourself so here is a pro


lighting is everything you can actually


little iphone lights or mini ring lights

that are super affordable

and they will make you look way hotter

in your photos

so it's great to send sexy sensual

teasing photos and to figure out what

actually turns your partner on

you can ask them what would you like to

see of me right now and then do your


to send some super erotic photos you can

also describe

self-pleasuring sessions you can do this

via video or text

and you can also send audio clips of

yourself describing

your fantasies with your partner what

you're experiencing in the moment

if you're in any way worried about any

of these photos or videos

being made public you can send them via

an app called signal which is

double end to end encrypted and used for

all manner of shady things and also

all manner of erotic and explicit things

you can also set

for your text and your videos to

automatically delete

after 24 hours which can be really

awesome as well if you want to make sure

that those never fall into the wrong

hands you can have signal app

calls or face timing videos where you

strip for each other ask each other to


things to each other or ask each other

like basically you can say i want to see

you do x y and z

and have your partner do it for you and

then they can express what they want to

see from you

so you can have super sexy masturbation


this also really helps remove shame from

your relationship

so sometimes when you can just like get

together and

have intercourse you lose some of that


also as well it's so empowering for a

couple to lose any sense of shame around

self-pleasuring around the way you touch


and so what can be so amazing actually

is through this time you can develop a


shameless relationship to how you


how you express yourself sexually how

you show up and ask

each other for what you want to see so

it's actually a rich opportunity to

deepen your sexual connection even

though you're apart so you can surprise

and delight each other with a secret

photo album that's ultra sexy

you can send your partner photos on the

regular or videos on the regular and

really challenge yourself

get over some of that like nervousness i

know that i've had it actually i'm part

of a whatsapp group where like we're not

going to go into details but like part

of the things you're supposed to set

like like share like ass photos of

yourself it's actually a friend group

but like it's like part of the thing

and i was like oh what if my ass doesn't

look good enough like how could i

actually like photograph my own ass and

i was like

lately you can do this like if not you

then who right so i was like

in front of the mirror trying all the

lighting and it was actually like a

beautiful way

to explore my own sensuality my own uh

blind spots around where i get nervous

or insecure

and also it's a great challenge to be

like how can i make my ass look

as amazing as possible with just me a

single light and my iphone right it's


that's a sunday so get yourself into it

drop into it really apply yourself to

figure out how can i look sexy in videos

how can i tease

this will help you throughout your

entire relationship you can also set up

really sexy date nights so bubble bath

date nights together

shared hike experiences really do things

together realize that you can do a lot

together via video you can share

meals really sharing your day if your

partner loves gifts if that's their love

language then make sure to ship them

cool stuff send them stuff that's going

to surprise and delight them

if your partner loves words of

affirmation make sure to compliment them

send them compliments every single day


your partner loves quality time make

sure to set up lots of dates

lots of sexual experiences and if your

partner likes

oh what is the oh acts of service find

out what you can do for them find out

how you can show up for them in their


even when you're distant so basically

don't let the distance be an excuse

to let your relationship founder

flounder founder flounder

but make sure to have this time apart be

a way to grow together

stronger and fall even more in love one

of my favorite exercises that couples

absolutely love is called fears desires

and loves

this is a 12 to 15 minute process where

you actually do structured sharing with

each other

and i find that when you're apart this

can be so good for the heart to actually

share what you're afraid of

what you desire and what you love about

each other it creates

deep intimacy and if you really get this

practice down while you're apart

you'll continue to practice it while

you're together which really will

strengthen and deepen your relationship

so i've included that down below as a

12-minute guided audio that you can

listen to together

and it will structure your sharing so

you can go ahead and click down below

it's totally free and it will guide you

through the fears desires and loves and

you can use it indefinitely inside of

your partnership

go ahead and subscribe to the channel

and have

amazing sexting experiences and you can

thank me for signal later it's an

amazing app

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