Baby Won't Sleep in Crib? Tips on How to Get Baby to Sleep in Crib

hey everyone it's dr. Sara Mitchell from

helping babies sleep I am a chiropractor

by training who found my passion

empowering parents to teach their little

ones to sleep when my own son just would

not sleep and today I want to talk to

you about five tips to help you get your

little one to sleep in the crib so over

the years I've worked with hundreds of

parents with different challenges I've

had toddlers that will only sleep on

their parents I've had five month-old

that will only nap in the stroller or

the car seat so I've seen a lot of

interesting sleep habits and sleep

coaches so if your child isn't napping

in the grip where is she napping right

it could be on you it could be in your

bed it could be in the swing it could be

in a socket ah it could be in the

stroller and you know why is that well I

want you to remember if anything out of

this whole life I want to remember this

phrase the drive to sleep is biological

but the way we sleep it's a learned

habit and this these habits are even

being present as early as four to eight

weeks of age that's right four to eight

weeks of age so you can see that as time

passes as your baby gets older often

these habits and these preferences and

these learned ways of sleeping become

more and more ingrained and they become

harder and harder to break so you know

sleeping in the car seat the stroller or

in this swing why is that so

intoxicating well you know they feel a

little bit tucked in to begin with but

then also some active motion is very

soothing I don't know if you've ever

been on a long train ride before but

it's a very relaxing experience so that

motion is very repetitive and it soothes

kids back to sleep so that's why in the

car seat or the stroller and the swing

motion helps your baby nap more you may

have noticed that if you stop the

stroller or the swing that nap might end

or just be shorter in general kids also

love to sleep in the arms carriers or

co-sleeping and why is that again who

wouldn't want to sleep with their mom

it's so beautiful it's so warm the

temperature itself also just that

repetitive motion of you breathing is

very relaxing to your kiddo as well

right there's nothing wrong with having

your kids sleeping

it's a beautiful thing it's very natural

it's just is that are you able to

maintain that that could be something

that's hard to maintain long term as

your kiddo gets heavier and as you you

know come out of that newborn stage you

have things that you want to do during

that time one thing we want to look for

with newborns is those kids that really

want to sleep in your arms or in a

carrier are the uncomfortable that's the

question we want to ask because there's

something underlying that we haven't yet

identified that could be wanting making

them more needy if you will so for

example kids with reflux often like to

sleep on people or in a carrier because

they're in a more upright position and

that can help the lessens the pain of


similarly kids with like gas lots of gas

or digestive issues they often want to

be in arms or even just sleep right

beside you even your proximity can be

very very soothing

I just would be remiss if I didn't

mention excuse me where it's safe to

sleep according to the Academy of

Pediatrics they all of these things that

I just mentioned are technically not

approved by the American Academy a safe

sleep they say that you need to be

having your little ones sleep in a

bassinet or crib you want a flat surface

in a crib or a bassinet so I don't know

if you remember but in 2019 there was a

massive recall of the fisher-price Rock

and play because of infant deaths right

and why does that happen

well it's unpleasant to talk about but

really briefly why the American Academy

of Pediatrics has these guidelines is

that they have found that you want your

child as flat as possible because if

you're inclined especially newborns and

kids that don't have a lot of neck

strength the risk is that your child's

head tilt forwards in a car seat or

swing and then they block their airway

which is the risk of suffocation right

the other reason that's not as commonly

talked about it's like with the docket

ah the worry is that your child's head

becomes pushed up against the side and

then you have recirculation of air what

that means is you're breathing out

carbon dioxide and then it's Rhian haled

and there's not enough oxygen in there

so you also it's a type of suffocation

all right so this is why it's great that

you're here now learning how to get your

kidoh to sleep in the crib so let's go

through five quick things that you can

work on so the first thing i mean if you

have a younger baby start now right kids

less than four month old have a much

less strong awareness of their

surroundings compared to kids that are

older so it's actually easier to change

sleep habits between like four and eight

weeks of months eight four and eight

weeks of age thank you so start now

start working on that second tip will be

work with your baby's sleep drive so we

all have a buildup of a protein that

signals our brain when it's time to

sleep and that is the highest at bedtime

so if you're gonna work on getting your

kiddo into the crib do that at bedtime

the second most easiest time is the

first nap of the day it's often

described as an extension of the

nighttime sleep and so you'll want to

work on the morning nap of the time to

practice getting your kiddo into the

crib my third tip is to make the

transfer as easy as possible so if your

Q is less than four months and not

rolling swaddle swallow for all the naps

it helps decrease that startle reflex

and it also creates that same you know

tucked in feeling that the car seat in

the suite it also create and then you

were when you make the transfer you're

gonna want to go feet first bum and then

head if you kind of throw your kid into

the into the crib headfirst if you're

putting them down headfirst that can

cause that startle reflex tactic so feet

bum and then head gradually the fourth

thing is give yourself five to ten

minutes to let something new work so I

find one when working with first-time

parents and I remember this feeling

myself that as soon as I heard my baby

cry huh I picked them up okay but I want

you to think what is you know you could

be beside your child shushing them

offering some verbal and physical

reassurance for five minutes and then

they fell asleep in the crib and then

they took it on roll on now with those

five minutes be worth it I would think

that yes they would be if you can get

through it what happens is that people

don't know where things are going and so

the tears like instinctually are so

unnerving that we don't give something

new a chance to work so I'd like to say

give yourself five to ten minutes

to be an observer and try putting them

in the crib and letting them fuss for

5-10 minutes with your presence and

you're offering them some reassurance

now there's a couple techniques out

there there something called the pickup

put-down method and I think this

actually has a great potential for

babies less than four months so you

might put your baby down in the crib she

fusses a little she starts to escalate

you pick her up get her calm down again


put her back down offer some reassurance

she fusses again pick her Becca this

could take a long time right but this is

part of teaching her something new is

starting to break the habits of being

sleeping on you you have to start

somewhere now what I find though for

babies older than four months is that

when you pick them up it's actually

harder because they're so disappointed

that you didn't let them sleep on you or

nurse them to sleep them when you put

them back down they actually cry harder

so over four months I would advise

probably not to pick them up the fifth

thing to consider is is the way that

we're sleeping still working for all of


herbicide so the you know the but they

drive to sleep is biological but the way

we sleep is learned so now your kiddo

has learned that he sleeps on you or he

sleeps in arms and he's refusing the

crib and now he's seven or eight months

old that will probably cause you're

probably having a lot of fractured

nighttime sleep which interrupts sleep

cycles and just really isn't the best

thing for your baby's house so now is it

time to really change up the way sleep

was looking and do what we call sleep

training if you follow me at all you

know that I hate that phrase because we

teach our children we train dogs but we

teach our children and that this is a

whole dough this is about saying you

know what I'm in charge of your health

and well-being and you sleeping in my

arms are you sleeping in the swing it's

just not the best thing for your health

anymore and we need to change things and

I know that that's gonna be tricky

because there you're eight months of age

you have all these preferences and

opinions about things but I'm in charge

and I know what's best for you and if

you're thinking about sleep teaching or

sleep training I do have an online class

for that it's for babies 4 to 24 months

and I want to teach you why we're doing

this it's not a cookie cutter approach

it's gonna teach you why you're

struggling with sleep so identifying


crunches you know what setting yourself

up for success so what is appropriate

for your baby as far as sleep needs go

when sleep should be happening how much

sleep and also feeding needs as well I

feel I work with a lot of people who get

caught up in that idea that their excuse

me that their eight or nine month old

really does need to eat three times a

night because that's what they're doing

all those are habits so I'm going to

talk to you through each age what I

think is you know achievable it's very

very gentle and then we'll talk about

sleep teaching for naps nighttime sleep

at night waking as well as well as going

through sample schedules what does sleep

look like for certain pages by month so

that's my a disease online sleep class

if you're feeling like I don't really

need that much but I'd like some more

information not to worry I have an

online sleep quiz that I've created it's

personalized so you I'm gonna ask you

some questions about your baby's age how

much sleep you're getting and what your

sleep habits are and you're gonna

response that says hey this is looking

good this is working for you this is

working for you but hey this part of

your sleep might not be working so well

for you and it'll give you one simple

tip that you can implement tonight so

I'll add those in the show notes so good

luck getting your baby to sleep in the

crib I want you to remember one to be

consistent - not to give up and three

that your baby is capable of this so

don't forget to be an observer and think

positive thoughts as you go through this

right this is the first one of the first

challenges in your parenting journey but

it won't be the last