When to start dating after a long relationship
Dating After A Breakup: A Relationship Expert Reveals Her Secrets
hi I'm coach Natalie and I'm a partner
of with my ex Ken calm this is our
YouTube channel I'm glad you made it
here I'm a partner of coach Adrian's and
coach
Alex's I really hope you've taken some
time to see their videos as well we're a
collaborative team geared toward helping
you guys find love and fix love in your
lives today I really wanted to release a
brief video on dating during a breakup I
think that that's a very taboo topic
that no one wants to talk about a lot of
my clients call me saying they feel like
they're cheating on their partner if
they go on a date even though their
partner left them or they left their
partner here's a reason I kind of
disagree with that I think that dating
during a breakup is a really good
confidence building exercise this isn't
about you becoming polygamous isn't
about you being promiscuous or spending
several nights out on the town with a
variety of partners this is really about
you building some confidence and feeling
desired by other people ultimately it's
gonna be your confidence that retracts
your partner to you and if you can't
show them your confident ambitious self
it's unlikely that they may want to
re-engage in the relationship believe it
or not in relationships they're
fundamentally balances of power right
and more often than not the person with
the most confidence tends to have the
most amount of power it's the more
docile passive partner that sometimes
ends up getting the end of the
stick excuse my french and I feel like
if we can date sometimes during the
break-up it can show you that you're
attractive you're desirable you're
worthwhile and all of those things lend
to rediscovering that sense of
confidence that you have and that's what
your partner was into in the first place
it's really important to kind of you
take this this slogan that I always say
be the person they met and not the
person that they left toward the end of
the relationship something about you or
maybe the both of you had changed but
when they first met you you were in a
good part of your life you were doing
well feeling good
treating people well and all of those
things are what made
you to them I think if you focus on
again refined in that confidence you're
gonna be able to successfully reattached
the relationship once again which what I
imagine is is what you're here viewing
this video for please note that even
though I encourage you to maybe go on a
date or two during a breakup it doesn't
mean that sometimes it doesn't come at
the risk of it hurting you you're gonna
be sitting across from a new person you
may feel forced to compare them to the
person you used to sit across from that
person being your ex and sometimes it
could be negative if it is negative
don't let it hurt you don't let it show
you that your ex is the only person in
your life what are you doing going on
dates how foolish are you that's not the
point of the exercise I don't want you
to feel like going on a date is supposed
to replace your partner this actually
has a lot less about other people than
you think this is about you and your
relationship with you let the person
sitting next to you empower you and
encourage you and just remind you that
there are other people in this world not
necessarily that you have to go out and
marry that person but at least know that
there's a chance that you can have
communication dialogue with someone else
learn something new about people around
you I really hope that this video helped
I know it was brief please feel free to
leave comments below I'd love to hear
what your thoughts are on it if you have
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