When to start searching for a nanny
What to know BEFORE you hire a NANNY [from real nannies]
hi guys welcome back to my channel happy
quarantine I'm so lucky I get to
quarantine with these people my
housemates and friends who also happen
to be Danny's so we are taking this time
that we have together to film a video
that will help set you up for your
future when you're no longer quarantined
and you're really tired of your kids and
you're ready to look for outside help we
are the help know that we want to help
set you up everything you need to know
about getting a nanny I feel like we
just have this interesting situation
going here where we see the kind of the
behind the scenes of what it looks like
to be a mom and to be nannies and
there's a lot of stuff about the nanny
mother relationship that I didn't know
before becoming a mom when it comes to
trusting someone else with my kid that
whole dynamic is tricky and what we want
to do is make a video for you that will
help make that easier so here's
everything that you're gonna need to
know about trusting your child with a
nanny and how to make that relationship
with the nanny the best that it can be I
my name's Lea set I am 28 years old I
have been nanning career-wise for last
three years in two months
I am a bilingual nanny or it can be
dependent family if that's something
that they are hiring me on board I would
speak to child insolia Spanish I act
also here in LA I nanny is how I pay the
bills acting is my only mom Becca and
I'm 28 and I've been babysitting since I
was like 12 or 13 I've worked in at
daycare I went to school for elementary
education and I managed on and off since
I was 20 but consistently for the last
two years and I have another job which
is working for Wilson
these videos she helps to film and edit
all the videos on this channel see I am
beat I am 20 years old I've been working
with kids for 3 years I worked at
Woodward and action camps for it and
then I worked for the school system
I'm also part-time barista because I
love ok so what I'm gonna do is just ask
these guys a bunch of questions let them
tell you everything you might want to
know and a bunch of stuff you probably
what you're going to ask first off where
do you find any uh I was found on care
calm person looking for a nanny comes in
and then the person who was wanting to
find a nanny position comes in on the
website makes profiles and then why and
then you interview see what works best
as I was found I got lucky the family
who wanted to find a nanny actually
forgot to make it public and she
contacted me so it's a because the
website is extremely competitive and I
got very lucky and through that I've met
other families and I think about forward
my families that's amazing I started
working for family just meant and
babysitting and the mom had started a
mom group here in LA and then from there
she gave my name to all the moms in the
mom group and from there I got other
part-time and full-time babysitting and
nanny jobs
simple things where do you live your age
experience expectations what the other
person values what do you think is the
most important thing for childs it's for
just structure it looks like goes those
are I think really more questions
I asked them like what their jobs are
hey if we talk about K expectations
what are you expected to do with it's
strictly watching the children or are
there other things usually there are
other things other things depend on the
family some families just the kid is
napping thank all he asked me to do is
hold laundry or do laundry and do like
light tithing I could dinner run errands
that's a big one I use the car go to
Target or get some groceries disinfect
toys so I think as parents when you're
hiring a nanny
thank you guys come together and agree
on what you want prioritize in the house
and with your child rather than just
giving two different instructions for me
because it gets confusing when you want
to do your best the best that you can do
you guys believe it a house with the
kids yeah yeah some some parents let you
take the car and others just mask them
block places what do you feel about the
mom being home while you're working I
think it could be really tricky at times
especially if the mom intervenes during
a tantrum or crying just anything when
you know that you can handle it yourself
it's just hard on us Dolan likes it when
their boss is like looking over their
shoulder making comments on the way that
we're doing our job the hardest part is
that kids act differently when their
parents are around either they want
their parents over us which makes sense
you guys are awesome or they feel
confused about who's the authority
figure is it a source of them which can
also cause tantrum and also be awkward
because we're in your home and do we
talk to you do we not talk to you I
don't prefer it but if it happens how
can i mommy a lot better for you that's
nice if you have like a place to close
the door and kind of be out of sight
mine because the kids will do they can't
see you if we're able to go out to the
park it walked to the park or go
somewhere else outside of the house even
being outside of the house it's really
good for the kid on top of that being
away from you is also helpful okay but
if you're watching a kid and the mom
hasn't left yet but they're about to
leave and then kids starts freaking out
with the kids I never know if I should
stand if I make them feel better or
would you rather left yes good question
Jesse because this is something that I
think most of us have experienced please
please please do not prolong the process
of the goodbye it is not helpful
not remotely child's problem not going
to calm down and it's probably just
gonna make it that much harder and even
for you to stress you out a lot more rip
it off like a band-aid trust us that you
know we don't want your kid to be
screaming and crying either when you
leave and we were probably gonna calmly
get down because chances are that they
do really well when it's just okay to
walk out it's okay to just give them the
kiss and hug cuz they know that you love
them so yeah that's it but how do you
guys feel about Manny camps I have
different families some families with
none and then other families with it and
ever your own make it harder it where is
it more pressure isn't pressure but you
know we probably shouldn't be on our
phones that much you know there's things
that like we probably shouldn't do and
then it keeps us I understand check for
certain things I think that I'd have a
problem with it more if like I've been
with the family for song dish trust and
then there's no like added cameras even
after it's like I come in and that's
already in and everything that's just
the way you guys feel safe okay that's
fair yeah what do you want to know yes I
understand why people want any cams just
in case there's ever a discrepancy if
like a kids in also get this and then
you have that like bad like actually
knowing what happened um but I don't
like the idea of like parents checking
it every day we're like being at work
watching it we're talking to you oh yeah
which that's have been a family
had a camera already placed in the home
or a couple cameras placed in the home
when I first got there and then after a
couple times I've been to their house
they said oh we're gonna remove them now
they don't really need you anymore yes
we trust you that feels good
big nanny has its perks being a nanny in
LA has its perks I have the privilege to
work for families who work in the music
industry here pretty high-profile I've
gotten to go to festivals and stuff like
while I'm taking care of the kids and
being like backstage or like going to
Virginia Beach or New York or like
Argentina I was in Argentina the best
hotel in all of our Janina and then
you're just seeing like random
celebrities like like walking and I'm
the baby they're running I'm like
there's Sam so very like crazy and yes
you're funny where they give it back you
can be these people there is another
family who flew me out to Mexico for a
vacation time they flew him out
first-class there by myself
I hope frisked us back and then they
paid me like so generously for that time
and they were just amazing lax has this
thing called private suite which like
only like celebrities use and stuff and
basically like you get driven to your
airplane and then you do get driven away
from your plane and then they have their
own private security section and so
you're like walking through it and then
you see all the little like people going
to the people and then you just get your
private security of Tuesday's like
Shannon is like an that and they and
they take your bags they take it to this
like really nice room it feels like a
hotel room and there's like all the
snacks from Trader Joe's and sprouts
this falls under family is making
nannies feel special which I highly
recommend find a nanny you love a nanny
who also loves your family and do what
you can to make that nanny feel extra
loved what's your family the family that
I currently work for um they know people
who started a coffee shop here in LA
is your favorite coffee yeah my favorite
coffee shop suffer Christmas they
arranged for me to have like a private
tour of their headquarters and where
they roasts and beans
and do a private cupping with one of the
owners of the company it was just really
thoughtful of them and then on top of
that they also gave me a Christmas bonus
so so nice really really cool but
something else that mom came to you to
make you guys feel special if I'm you
lunch I'm at work have a conversation
especially if you work at home and
you're gonna be there anyway it's always
cool if you like can talk to me or I can
talk to you but does it feel so tense
the fun nice text messages I see these
girls when the moms and nice text to
them and they really feel special
how can a family honor your time if you
know that you're gonna be running late
or even if if it's a heart if you know
the week is gonna be a full week and it
looks like you're probably gonna be
staying over let us know before like hey
there's probably a chance at this week
I'm gonna need you another 15 30 to an
hour after it's not okay when it's like
five minutes before your shift ends and
the parents texting you like hey I'm
stuck at work still love wanna be late
if that happens mergence 'yes we
understand bringing to help but we also
have a life and they're thinking what I
respect that perfect yeah I'm fair
professionally we are doing pro yes
right they're like remember how you
would feel if your boss asks you to stay
late unexpectedly assume you should do
it yeah I wish oh yeah I've seen you
feel sometimes bummed if a family
cancels on you a few minutes before
you're supposed to work true also though
a lot of times those families offer to
pay me something
time if they cancel oftentimes I turned
it down but the thought the thought and
the gesture um really mean a lot so
treating the person who's naming for
your family as a working professional
and really honoring their time and then
genuinely honoring that person it's a
really valuable thing and then it's fair
to expect that back the nanny
relationships I've had people have loved
me very deeply and taking care of my
kids I think they're part of their own
family have you guys ever made 15 an
hour yes 18 an hour yes 20 an hour yes
more than 20 hours yes okay does it
increase per child yes yeah okay does it
vary depending on the age of the child
um yeah I would say so not for me maybe
different days ok nanny versus daycare
mom's trying to figure out what's best
for the family can you speak to that
yeah so I worked in daycare and I loved
it oh my worked with all ages in that
daycare from 6 weeks old to 5 years old
there's pros and cons to both me and
having a nanny or putting your child in
daycare just depends on what you want
and what you value and what your budget
is daycares are going to be cheaper less
one-on-one time your child is probably
going to get more sick if they go to
daycare we're just in the beginning then
you're gonna are gonna have tougher
music yeah other you know rich kids
animations probably certain learned
behaviors right yeah but they were you
thinking you have tendencies oh okay
yeah but I know a lot of moms are scared
that their kid won't get enough
attention that daycares and you would
probably know firsthand that that that's
not necessarily true when I put Eloise I
figure she got a lot of attention from
yeah sure not as much a one-on-one but
it probably depends on take care yeah
a friend of mine has her baby and a dick
here right now and they send pictures
all throughout the day of the baby hmm
and and I guess a positive aspect of
daycare would be that the kid learned
learn some like social confidence
because
around other kids starting really young
your child can be raised and as an
extension of how you would raise your
head uh like exactly how you want it
which I like if you are clear from the
very beginning these armed expectations
this is how I do things in this house
prefer them to be done it's our job to
adhere to that it's our job to respect
it and do it of course there are times
where we're gonna do things slightly
different are you know goal is to do
things exactly the way that you hope
we're getting paid for that like
essentially like yeah even if I may not
agree with certain things in my personal
style yeah I'm getting paid to kind of
you know pull my opinions and stuff
aside and do the way you'd want to do it
so that makes a lot of sense yeah that's
really good another perk would be that
you just get the extra help that you
yeah around the house or things you get
to or just if you need a moment for
yourself or a couple hours for yourself
that is all for you and we are there to
just help you when I say parents please
it's okay to use this for naps like I
know that's I'm so crazy but I
appreciate so much when you use me for
naps because you guys are tired like
it's what we're here for
like a kid so like so please like don't
feel bad if you're like you just take
the bigamy or take IME to sleep on us
left like like that's like I always
thought repairing I think it's a really
big deal use is for napping we don't
care we look yeah that's really good
I've even seen moms especially I've seen
it with you you asking for support like
how do I sleep train my kid what do I do
because you guys have this experience
where you're with multiple family that
one and different age groups and stuff
so it's even a cool way to support a mom
is to have a nanny which is like a
built-in friend who loves your King to
live an empty okay any final increment
for moms we
I'm here I say in aspects of a nanny we
we love your kids like we do yeah it's
funny they know a lot of my experiences
with nannies
it doesn't always start off the best at
the beginning in the beginning it might
be that the kid just think does Nala and
that's happened to me like a little kid
just did not like me but I like stuck it
out and then we all stuck it out
together and then now you know these
kids are five six or looks like and I'm
like so obsessed with them I love them
so much and like just like trust that we
love your child and that we love you and
that we are for you as a parent we
didn't have chosen to be nannies if we
discuss some sort of like passion for it
how long do you give a relationship I
have nanny family job yeah
before you say oh this isn't working
sometimes you'd note off the bat with
some families like it can be one week or
you're like it's more than amazing a
parent yeah I could have a nanny that's
really great so much experience and then
the parent that's like really great too
and then they come together and they
just like don't work and that's okay
guys I mean anything's wrong with it
they just like don't mesh well together
and they didn't vibe together and that's
fine some people have probation periods
of like let's try this out for one month
two month three months or - six months
and by then you should know don't hire
someone you don't trust if you trust
them then you will be able to like leave
them and know that they're going to take
care of your kid as best as possible and
how you would want them to take care of
your kid if you don't trust them it's
not worth it it's just gonna drive
everyone crazy because then you're gonna
micromanage and you're going to yeah
it's just not gonna be good for anyone
that's right okay for both moms and
nannies be communicators like
communicate extra well being clear talk
through expectations and then talk about
it again and if something comes up you
don't have to feel uncomfortable
bringing something up do it with
kindness and like try to understand each
other just like you do any other
relationships and we've had friends
where they've worked for the same family
for a very long time and then suddenly
lost their job because the mom was upset
about something but didn't talk
and the person could have changed the
behavior had it been a conversation so
yeah so be could communicate it yeah but
you're gonna be great and it's really
important that somebody else is able to
hang out with your kid you're gonna need
it for your own like mental state but
then it's actually really healthy for
your kid to get used to being with
somebody other than you and I think that
especially with Eloise she's older I can
see it better with her she is way kind
of more fun to be around more confident
more easygoing
when she has spent a good amount of time
away from me with somebody that I love
and trust it's hard
I like turned into a bit of a weirdo I I
remember the first time trusting I
always was somebody other than me I was
like saying all kinds of random things
but like oh and she doesn't eat this and
she and they weren't even gonna feed her
that I just was scared
um I don't you just it brings out the
weird in you but I think nannies can
handle it and they've been around moms
like you before and ultimately it's
gonna be great and it turns out really
worth it and in your life is a lot
better we in our quarantine home believe
that you can do this not right now
because nobody can really do much of
anything but soon enough
you can find a nanny and your nanny is
gonna be so excited to work with you and
you guys are gonna do such thoughtful
loving things for each other like get
each other birthday gift we hope that
one day you will be in the private
section of the airport riding like the
fancy people not the common people not
high-rise exactly yeah hire sever don't
cuz you ready oh yeah okay thank you so
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